Saturday, October 30, 2021

Wisdom Quotes - I Read Tea Tags

Oct 2009 revisited
What is it about October and being overcome by life? 

Mark Twain  is quoted on the teabag tag:

                                 The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself. 

This tag does not make it into my trash. I tell myself it is a reminder of my intent to visit Twain's CT home. But, it is more. 

Too often it is an outcome. A most genuine young person's  discomfort overcame him on Oct. 3rd, 2009.

A wise friend eulogized this life as --- an anomaly. 

He was genuine. Do not underestimate the interminable value of such a quality. It made his words drip with honesty, his gestures bleed sincerity, his compassion captivate with clarity, and his life – touch every person who found themselves fortunate enough to cross its path. He was a good man. Let me repeat this statement, for it seems to necessitate an extraordinary emphasis. He was a good man. In these lives we lead, such men are as rare to find as they are difficult to lose.

Being genuine is often a lonely road. I agree with this characterization. As hundreds of young acquaintances and some true friends mingled among disarmed friends-of-family to pay respects or say farewell... another anomaly played out and spoke to the dissonance that created such profound sadness and ultimately, loneliness. 

I am left to wonder if good humor was a mask on this soul, and sadness, the ultimate poison. Masks do more than hide. They reimagine. They cover up and that is not a road to healing.

The Christian burial of this non-believer provided a hyper-view of how anomalies of existence contributed to discomfort.

At the LGTB Rally [National Equality March] many lay claim to the temptation of life taking in the face failure to be accepted and the possibility of equality. To all those attending and knowing such a pain -- may they find strength in the self-knowing exemplified by Lt. Dan Choi

May those who feel the pain of distance from family for any reason - may you find a larger human family to connect every day - not just at this rally. 

I am grateful that a trip to the theater helped me know the story of Matt Shepard. I was encouraged as a mother on  10.08.09 that the nation was one step closer to being a better union thanks to a conference report in support of the Matthew Shepard Act before the Senate. Matthew Shepard was a gay student who was beaten to death in Wyoming in 1998. But it was a step, a legislative rider, limited to facilitating investigations of actual acts of violence, not threats of violence or other verbal conduct. Later the Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 2009 was passed

 ~~~ Back to Quotes At age 10, my life's goal was to have a published quote in Reader's Digest. 



In 2009, there were  4242 pages of RD (Reader's Digest Quotes) quotes online. They were categorized as Wit & Wisdom. Now Twitter-sized on-line world, everyone is self-published and searchable. Wisdom is metered out in blogs. It remains a habit, an immediate go-to to find the quotes when I come across an RD magazine.  And I am still in search of wisdom within from with my own experience.

Monday, October 18, 2021

The Mayor’s Rolodex is Out-of-Date

This is an excerpt from the chapter Filling Our Dance Card: The Governance Waltz in Citizen Media Maven - The Life a memoir with stories grabbed from citizen media experiences.

There never seems to be enough time… I 've looked around enough to know

 Jim Croce Folk Rock Waltz
 Time In a Bottle --shared with the world posthumously in 1973

To Keep Things Exactly As They Are

The local election is a few weeks away. The incumbent Mayor has been in office 38 years. This is uncommon and perplexing. Many voting for him say, ‘…no need to fix, what is not broken.’ It is an opinion held by many on fixed incomes. Some plan cruises. Others live in homes badly in need of repair, rooted in circumstance, not complacency. They all want low taxes. They vote, swayed by the myth of low taxes, unaware of the potential power of active governance. Myths provide comfort.

Those who do not vote for the Mayor see a pattern of neglect for town property, while other voters see demolition, attrition and elimination as a means of keeping taxes low for themselves. Their household budget, much like a dance card relic, is penciled in with the power of worry.

As a senior citizen myself, I see much irony in this somewhat prevailing libertarian view of government. The idea that government has a tendency to fix things that aren't broken, and not fix things that are broken, was ushered in during the Carter administration. It was popularized by the head of the Office of Management & Budget (OMB). President Carter is now the face of Habitat for Humanity, formed the year before he was elected. His post-presidency popularity is fueled by his visible public service. This endearing public presence indirectly reinforces the idea of minimal intervention by government in private lives.

Elections bring us to our toes. In time, we relax, and are on flat feet again. Much like the popular waltz, elections are moments of public intimacy: exhilarating, occasional and full of ‘if only’ sentiments.

In anticipation of his child's birth, Jim Croce composed a waltz, an 'if only' love song with wishes to keep Time in a Bottle.

If I could save time in a bottle

... make days last forever

…had a box just for wishes.

 Some may remember hearing Time in a Bottle, as the old, wishing to be young; Muppet sought a scientific solution to ‘making days last forever.’ Ironically, video clips from The Muppet Show, Season 2 Episode 7, are in the cloud. Humanity’s memory. These puppets often interpreted songs which had seeped into our shared consciousness. These artistic renderings furthered their meaning in our collective memory. Internet archives, such as muppet.fandom.com, enable anyone, of any age, to see Jim Henson as the old chemist searching science for life’s elixir.

Another posthumously published song about holding on, both bright and brooding, remains persistently relevant.

..there been times that I thought

I couldn't last for long

But now I think I'm able, to carry on

Commenting on music, commemoration and change, David Cantwell, wrote a piece for The New Yorker in 2015: The Unlikely Story of “A Change Is Gonna Come.” He suggests that “…old tunes will be tools that we can use—recycled or repurposed, sampled for the dance floor, or shouted in a crowd, to aid in work that still needs to be done.”

But I know a change gonna come

Oh, yes it will

Uncommonly personal, this anthem of hope is said to have been written upon reflection of his life's purpose, a few years before Cooke’s murder.

Even when time is elusive, in short supply, change is gentler, if we let the music in. Cantwell concludes, “Cooke’s rough, sweet voice—blues-born and church-bred, beat down but up again and marching—still rings.”  James Baldwin, an expatriate, famously said, "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced."

Music can bring order to chaos. In mythology, it charms deities. The mystery of music speaks to us about something universal. …a force, a hope of a transcendent possibility. Music is difficult to suppress. Echoing literary sage, George Steiner who speaks of the Debussy, Dachau and asks. ‘Is it a nonsense question? .. Could the music have said no?’

There is a universal, personal, answer. Music plays us. It does not say no.

Music can open our secrets. Nobody Knows The Trouble I HaveSeen. Music and lyrics by Sam Cooke, sung among Muppets, by John Denver, uses Cooke’s adaptation of the spiritual. With veiled protests against the anarchy and slavery music help us collectively face change that must come. It soothes souls, even those in transport to gas chambers. What you know by heart, they cannot take.

Speech on the other hand can love, build, forgive, torture, hate, destroy, even annihilate. This paradox is the arrogance of language. As personified by Steiner, ‘Language, in its arrogance, believes that it can imagine, record, contain, excuse and abolish evil.’ Obsessed with the inexplicability of the holocaust, he resists the belief that there is power in art to arrange and transcend, there is power in community to rise up, and yellow ribbons of hope can unite us in solidarity.

Mission Bright Yellow Home

The First Congregational Church mission service project, resembling Habitat For Humanity, was literally close to home—happening in town in 2018. Four hundred youth, from seventeen churches, in eleven states, converged in Wallingford for Workcamp.

In advance, local Workcamp coordinators reached out to WPAA-TV staff asking to ‘cover’ the story and assist in identifying eligible low income seniors or disabled as recipients of charity.

After the ‘Happy to help.’ reply comes ‘Here is how citizen media works. You are the media makers. We provide the tools & stage and production training. Our policy requires at least one volunteer participate in the production.’ Following the policy disclosure, a plan was devised to record a conversation amongst team members. Cam Regan, a high school student, who would be a Workcamp participant, learned video post-production. The dozens of hours of post-production support for the promotional stories transcended the arrangement of clips and sound bites.

This well connected church also reached out to government access, WGTV. Within a strict interpretation of WGTV policy only ‘a non-profit that receives funding from the town budget’ qualifies for government media coverage. Therefore, a strategy to be 'produced by WGTV' was devised. Since the mission project had a Wallingford Office of Emergency Management angle, and a the Youth Services Director was willing to host, an episode of the very occasional Profiles of a Caring Community was produced for them. There is always more than one way to tell a story.

Cam would later decide to document his participation in the mission with his smartphone camera in a ‘as it happens’ style. His mission service team painted the home of a local senior. The house was transformed from dingy to bright yellow in a matter of days.

When staff asked Cam for permission to remix his documentary to train Team Hercules youth, he readily agreed. One of the techniques used to illustrate various aspects of storytelling, in our Team Hercules youth training program, is ‘story remix.’ With permission, the TV station uses archival footage, to either extract a story into a shorter form, or retell it from a different point of view. Much of the basics of documentary storytelling are learned in this process as well as digital literacy and storytelling fundamentals. Each video remix has a different emphasis, point-of-view and uses commercial free audio tracks to set the tone.

While all these connections were serendipitous, the actions and responses aligned with a vision and strategic plan. The ability to demonstrate the difference between government and citizen media, a collaboration with a local church outside of Sunday Services, and a story to remix that would resonate with our summer youth team because it was original produced by someone like them can be tied up in a yellow ribbon: Support those fighting for something bigger, better, brighter.

Community Roots & Connection

Walt, the original yellow house home owner, passed away about six years before the mission project. While not a member of the mission church, he attended Zion Lutheran; he was active in Wallingford as a scout leader and champion of recycling. He led a simple life on a property that welcomed wildlife. He empowered scouts to be self-reliant future leaders. He encouraged citizen action to save the planet. The family members that remained in his home were known in the community for giving, not from abundance, but from compassion and talent. The youth, painting the house with lovely gardens, felt this connection over lemonade, stories and observation of a home filled with loving memories and clever crafts.

Walt had succumbed unexpectedly in an accident. When he passed, the local flower shop delivered a fresh flower bouquet to his home address with a yard full of summer’s blooms. It was addressed to Walt’s ex-wife of fourteen years. It was signed by the Mayor.

Walt’s beloved companion of ten years, as referred to in his obituary, called the Office of the Mayor asking about the intentions. Should she pass the flowers along? The Mayor’s Secretary, a companion employee of many years, confirmed the note had been dictated by the Mayor. There was no apology, in the moment of the call, nor with a follow-up note.

I learn about the bouquet delivery, almost a decade after Walt’s death, the day after depositing my 2021 absentee ballot in the voting drop box. My vote, for a different Mayor, never felt more right. It resonates politically because I know sending flowers is in the playbook of U. S. Senator Mitch McConnell who has a network of local florists across Kentucky misrepresenting his connection.

How a misstep is handle, ripples. Freeman volunteers, tasked with celebrating life’s milestones, are taught to confirm that the person Facebook tells us is having a birthday also has a pulse. A post suggesting ‘enjoy your next trip around the sun’ on the virtual friend’s legacy timeline could be a serious misstep. While the Freeman of the moment may have no personal connection with the person being celebrated, they are connected in the spirit of community, and are governed by a protocol to 'look around enough to know ... Who we want to go through time with? 

Change is going to come. Will there be more occasional profiles of a caring community, or stories rippling from a Rolodex that is out-of-date?  

VOTE.